Reader Matter:

Hi David,

I’m 60 years old, very healthier, extremely active, and an extremely great lady. I got a tremendously cool marriage for over 3 decades. I signed up with Match.com whenever We separated, had a few times (these were terrible), and then one night stands site popped upwards. You will find dated him on / off for two years. He informed me he likes myself, but the guy vanishes all the time. We see him for a couple times, then he’s gone for just two to three months. He was married for 3 decades and contains three kids (exactly like myself) and states he has commitment dilemmas and is also witnessing a therapist about it. Their spouse cheated on him and then he features medicine and liquor problems.

Must I look at this guy to get poisonous? If the guy contacts myself once more (that we think he will), do I need to tell him never to contact me personally any longer, or can I merely let him know i love being with him but have always been making my solutions prepared for time other individuals?

-Nancy (California)

David Wygant’s Solution:

Should you consider this guy toxic?  No.

I would personally think about him to get a booty call.

Which is all they are.  He’s a booty telephone call.

The guy does not want to commit.  He’s discovering plenty reasons, and yet he wants to arrive over and trick around.

Whenever a guy does that, all he could be doing is utilizing you as an intimate partner.

Confront him about it if you’d like, but a guy like him makes up some type of tale not to end up being cut off intimately.

So move forward and  discover a person who deserves you.

The time you’ve been wasting considering him being with him is actually time you will be fulfilling an innovative new guy.

Benefit from the process!

David